Let’s talk about sex addictions and why it’s more common than ever?
Unfortunately sexual content is everywhere these days, though we were made to make love and share intimacy – casual sex has taken over, and it’s lost its true meaning. Moreover, the younger generation is suffering from this. Sex is promoted in films, television shows, music videos and used tremendously in advertisements. Why? It attracts attention. People desire romance and love, and content creators/advertisers show how their products can meet these needs. Making love with your partner or spouse is healthy – it boost heart health, the immune system, and It’s also linked to improving one’s sleep and burning calories. For married couples with children, making love at least twice a week can increase intimacy and decrease stress. On the other hand, this valuable and pleasurable activity can also become quite destructive to numerous people. For those battling a sex addiction, the act becomes a tool of which consumes and leads to unhealthy and detrimental choices.
What is sex addiction? It’s a progressive intimacy disorder characterized by compulsive sexual thoughts and acts. According to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, nearly 12 million Americans struggle with sexual addiction in the United States. If a person goes untreated, over time, the activities they’ve chosen to satisfy their craving are no longer satisfying, and they look for other ways to achieve satisfaction, and their actions intensify. Sex addicts experience impulses that escalate beyond their control and have sex to escape their problems (loneliness, anxiety, depression, stress). They also engage in sexual activity they know will have significant consequences, but they can’t help it —the fix is worth the negative result. Consequently, to a sex addict, intimacy is non- existent and they have problems establishing and maintaining relationships. Recent studies have found a higher number of people with addictive sexual behavior come from dysfunctional families. A person with sexual addiction is more likely to have been abused than other people.
It’s important to understand that sex addiction is not the same as substance addiction or gambling. Human beings can survive without substance abuse or gambling and lead healthy lives, but sex and intimacy are essential for human survival. Regrettably, sex addiction is massive, like a tree with many branches. It takes years of continued therapy to control this type of dependence, mainly because sex is everywhere and we’re always reminded of it–as stated above. Sex addicts need to cope with this reality, and the way to do that is to create a balanced and focused mind so they can live a stable life.
Neurofeedback therapy combined with individualized counseling sessions teach patients how to love themselves and release the trauma or painful experiences from their past that lead them to this destructive behavior. At the Eustache Institute, we take sex addiction very seriously. We conduct a brain map to find the location of the brain causing the addiction, and then we retrain the brain with customized brain exercises. We ask all of our patients to keep a journal so they can look back and see the progress they’ve made thanks to their treatment plan. These two treatments have helped many of our clients overcome their sexual addiction.
If you suffer from sex addiction, please don’t be ashamed. Realizing you have a problem and contacting a professional for treatment takes a lot of courage. If you are someone who has experienced sexual assault or child sexual abuse, please know this, none of what happened to you was your fault. You are no one’s victim, and you are a SURVIVOR, strong beyond measure.
Dr. Elena Eustache has a Ph.D. in Psychology and Cognitive Behavior Therapy. Dr. Elena Eustache helps her patients reach their full potential so that they can live the life they’ve always dreamed. To learn more about Elena Eustache and Neurofeedback therapy, please visit her website at www.EustacheInstitute.com. You can also find her on Instagram and Facebook.